tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.comments2012-02-05T06:07:29.857-07:00Life At The Rocket RanchAshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11019943592900750374noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-14759793909857202172012-02-05T06:07:29.857-07:002012-02-05T06:07:29.857-07:00Hey, Ash --
Deep breath. Have courage for the big...Hey, Ash --<br /><br />Deep breath. Have courage for the big thoughts - I'm glad to see you tackling them now. Here if you ever want to talk.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15598380941676945491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-24903290539578969212011-08-09T22:52:08.494-06:002011-08-09T22:52:08.494-06:00In college, I knew you had a dog you loved, but th...In college, I knew you had a dog you loved, but that was all I knew; thanks for the glimpse of another side of Ash's life in a beautiful memorial.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15598380941676945491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-75548379774739804582011-08-04T15:10:39.691-06:002011-08-04T15:10:39.691-06:00A wonderful tribute, Ash. I'm glad you had he...A wonderful tribute, Ash. I'm glad you had her in your life and you shared your memories with us.Wendy L. Trommerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05787233758398659985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-31884387656536998002010-12-22T23:51:57.547-07:002010-12-22T23:51:57.547-07:00Got here via Mel. My thoughts are with you.Got here via Mel. My thoughts are with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-22398513728347264462010-12-20T19:29:57.576-07:002010-12-20T19:29:57.576-07:00Ash! Somehow I haven't had your blog on my RSS...Ash! Somehow I haven't had your blog on my RSS feed (I got here from Mel's blog too). Sorry things aren't going so well. I remember hearing similar stories before, so I know this has been going on for a long time. Sounds like things are slowly changing, but I can imagine that patience for this kind of crap goes away really fast. You do awesome work and deserve the recognition for it. Keep it up! Hope to see you again when I'm back in the states.David Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16157111895034574230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-68513204430646779212010-12-20T16:36:06.298-07:002010-12-20T16:36:06.298-07:00Found your blog via the Nerds in Babeland twitterf...Found your blog via the Nerds in Babeland twitterfeed... and this line just jumps out at me! <br /><br />"I was tired of having things taken away when I ask for help."<br /><br />Thanks for putting that feeling into words.emmajeanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15480484793776441159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-16602613646985468702010-12-20T13:11:56.315-07:002010-12-20T13:11:56.315-07:00Hey, a friend of a friend referred me over here. ...Hey, a friend of a friend referred me over here. I work in games as a female PM, and - well, fortunately, I have had the luck to work in groups that are generally well-balanced gender-wise, and I haven't had to fight this battle alone before.<br /><br />However, I can relate in another way - as someone who's generally considered "flighty" by nature, who's been discriminated against as a PM (it is the most irritating thing about being a PM ever - everyone else seems to look down on and belittle your own intelligence) and as a person who's ethnically Chinese, I've had to fight my own battles, so I know how it can feel to be in the same position.<br /><br />It's great that you have such a good lead to look up to and to help support you. The next step - though, admittedly, I know little about the structure of your lab - is to recruit the people who work most closely with you into helping you win this battle. <br /><br />Example: when a coworker accompanies you to a meeting, talk to him beforehand and ask him to help direct any questions pertaining to your field to you - that is, if someone directs a question that YOU are more suited to answer towards him, have him say, "That's more her expertise; she'll be able answer your question for you." Step in to answer yourself; when this happens, say, "I can answer that question for you." and answer it. Don't let the fact that it wasn't targeted at you prevent you from answering. After this happens a couple times, hopefully the questioner realizes who the person they should be speaking to is!<br /><br />This goes with lab behavior, too. Your group mates should know what your area of expertise is, and whenever someone goes wandering after another group member thinking that he's the better person to answer a question, have him direct that person towards you, instead. It's not a battle you need to fight alone. Your group members should know better than anyone your abilities - they know that you are capable of doing your job and that you are intelligent. <br /><br />I hope that you are able to speak to your group members and get their support. They may not be aware that such a problem exists; it might help very much to make them aware that you're bothered by this small inequalities that all add up together, and let them know how it frustrates you that you are constantly overlooked for your efforts. Ask them to help you gain the recognition you deserve. <br /><br />Best of luck to you - I honestly hope that you don't get so frustrated by the situation that you want to leave the work you love so much! Nobody should be forced out of the field they love because of stupid people. :)kupowarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04233994554019858128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-20162946965039016002010-12-20T12:28:35.310-07:002010-12-20T12:28:35.310-07:00I'm really sorry to hear you are going through...I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this. It is sad that this still goes on; you'd think as a society we would have advanced past this by now. <br /><br />You mentioned that they were only little things, not blatant sexism- but the little things can be just as damaging. There is even a name for them: microinequities. There is a good article explaining them here: http://bit.ly/ikvTSI<br /><br />Keep up the good work, and try not to let them get you down. It *will* get better, I promise!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349765563150981854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-65044090582656117552010-12-20T12:07:41.539-07:002010-12-20T12:07:41.539-07:00I followed over from Mel's site too.
All I ca...I followed over from Mel's site too.<br /><br />All I can say is that I've run into that stuff. Ended up mistaken for the wife of whatever random guy I'm talking too, ignored or assumed incompetent by customers, the sense of loneliness anytime I'm reminded I don't quite belong.<br /><br />I'm lucky; I've now found a group that is half women. It is half woman because my boss made a point to get it there. I still face those things when I go out into the larger company, but I can always come back and commiserate with my coworkers, men and women, because that is considered normal.<br /><br />He's a guy. He gets it, and from that I take hope that someday more people will also get it. That is it teach-able and learn-able. That the world can change.<br /><br />When things get too frustrating, I hang out on the devchix mailing list, or read about the history of women in computer science. It makes me feel better to know that there have always been women where I am, facing at least as many assumptions, and that I can find their stories even though they have often been ignored, or even systematically erased. Rediscovering their stories feels like miniature acts of rebellion; I hope that some day in the future someone will rediscover mine and feel better about whatever behavior they are facing.Me!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10694032310385244509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-81553172764480064052010-12-20T09:51:30.825-07:002010-12-20T09:51:30.825-07:00I know this awesome person, mel, and she said you ...I know this awesome person, mel, and she said you were awesome, nuff said. She said you did awesome stuff like FIRST. I wish I had something awesome to say. Maybe come dressed with groucho-marx glasses and see if they notice your 'male' alter-ego (that is suppose to be serious and funny).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-5709644221819259202010-05-20T06:55:39.640-06:002010-05-20T06:55:39.640-06:00I think what you learn in college is how to think,...I think what you learn in college is how to think, problem solve and grasp new concepts. For me that was the big take away. As you go forward, you will continue to learn lots of things they didn't teach you in college, but you won't notice so much because college will be less of a presence in your life. Learning, however, will always be there. Life is learn or stagnate and die.Wendy L. Trommerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05787233758398659985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-89392072835474171232010-05-16T09:28:53.315-06:002010-05-16T09:28:53.315-06:00just sayin', when i first read your title for ...just sayin', when i first read your title for this post, i was like "ZOMGWTFLULZWUTBABBY?!?!"Kalithoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18122795958034888553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-67120405632815327032009-11-12T11:29:09.168-07:002009-11-12T11:29:09.168-07:00So how are you going to prank them back? ;)So how are you going to prank them back? ;)Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15598380941676945491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-51404024646394261352009-10-09T11:02:14.539-06:002009-10-09T11:02:14.539-06:00yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyKalithoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18122795958034888553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-59199137501789549822009-09-28T07:52:34.473-06:002009-09-28T07:52:34.473-06:00Wooooo! It's a good day when you fulfil a chil...Wooooo! It's a good day when you fulfil a childhood dream. :) --MelMelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15598380941676945491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-55223516998275620622009-07-21T10:16:14.253-06:002009-07-21T10:16:14.253-06:00I like strong, "teaching" women - the ma...I like strong, "teaching" women - the main character in my novel is a woman on the homefront during WWII and she is a great character who makes a difference.goflight001https://www.blogger.com/profile/16557843057885364476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-20670229454442822009-07-21T10:09:21.878-06:002009-07-21T10:09:21.878-06:00I volunteer at the Denver Museum of nature and sci...I volunteer at the Denver Museum of nature and science and I love seeing the gleam in the kids' eyes. :)<br />@flight0001 twitter<br />Russgoflight001https://www.blogger.com/profile/16557843057885364476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2139041686781195704.post-55547327943900085032009-03-24T12:54:00.000-06:002009-03-24T12:54:00.000-06:00Aww, thanks!Keep kickin' at those doors, lady. The...Aww, thanks!<BR/><BR/>Keep kickin' at those doors, lady. They're gonna open wide.<BR/><BR/>-Amy-Amy Patrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17226358922391554055noreply@blogger.com